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College Series: Partying

       I wasn't a huge social butterfly in college. My roommate and I pretty well stuck together. We had movie nights and scraped together enough change to buy a pizza. We did have a friend that was more into the party scene and in turn that took us to a few. From those experiences comes these words of wisdom.
  1. Have a plan before you go out. If there is going to be alcohol and there most likely will be decide who all is going to drink and who is going to stay the sober "mom friend" (if you don't trust your friends enough, be the mom friend). Their job is to keep the intoxicated friends safe and from doing anything they will regret. Decide who is going to be DD (designated driver), which can be but is not necessarily the mom friend, or how else you're getting there and back. Have an idea of how long you want to stay. Have meeting places and times if you are going to separate. Don't assume that you'll figure it out later while you're out and about.
  2. Know where the party is. If you are being taken there and back pay attention to where your going in case you need someone to pick you up, you end up having to call a cab, or even walk back. This is the case with some frat parties, they get the pledges to shuttle people to it. If you don't know the address get landmarks and a general idea and put it in your phone if you have to.
  3. Be careful who you choose to go out with. My roommate and I trusted each other to have our backs. If one of us ever felt uncomfortable we would leave no questions asked. We stayed together. This kind of goes back to the mom friend thing but make sure that even if you go out with a group that you have at least one tried and true friend in case you have a drunk falling out with the rest of your group.
I know that these all seem ridiculously common sense but college can be a time of poor decisions. I have a story of one night in particular that encompasses these points.
My roommate and I got convinced to go to a party by our mutual friend from across the hall. She has an acquaintance from one of her classes that offered to let us ride to the party with him since he is also going. I was always the mom friend out of my roommate and I, mostly because I'm older. We went to the party and a few minutes in our driver started drinking and so went our ride. We power through and have a good time anyway until it was time to go. When my roommate and I were ready to go back to our dorm (our other friend had ran off some where and we couldn't find her) we called my roommate's boyfriend who said he was going to get us. Our friend found us eventually and her and my roommate had a drunken screaming match because she didn't like her boyfriend and wouldn't accept the ride. Her boyfriend didn't end up coming because he was at a different party so my intoxicated roommate and I, having no other foreseeable option, walked back. I had to use google to even figure out where we were (thank goodness for signal). We ended up walking through the middle of downtown in the middle of the night.
There were a number of awful things that could've happened to us that night.

Other important things to remember are to make your own drink or watch someone make your drink, if you set your drink down don't pick it back up and drink it!
Be safe out there!
Peace, Love, & Flowers 
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